So you’re on either side of the fence: a girl’s date should pay on a date or a girl should pay on a date.
Yes, a man should absolutely pay when he takes a girl on a date! He has to show that she is worth something to him!
No, a man should not be obligated to pay at all! Women are quite capable of making their own money and paying for themselves!
The side you are on is no doubt influenced by the geographical location in which you grew up and that may indicate how you were taught to think about these type issues.
Can you guess where I’m from?
You bet! Born and raised in the south. I fit the stereotype so well, don’t I?
I do think that a man should pay when he takes a woman on a date.
However, I don’t think it’s some hard, fast rule! Apart from the “rules” in the Bible, the rest is left up for each of us to discern on our own.
Here is the reason a girl’s date should pay:
A dating relationship is not marriage, even though many dating relationships try to operate like marriages. So a dating relationship should not be designed under the covenant guidelines outlined in the Bible: Ephesians 5:21-33.
Basically, a woman does not submit to her boyfriend, and a boyfriend does not submit to his girlfriend.
Submissiveness is designed for marriage.
So how can you be assured if the guy you are dating is going to uphold his part in the verses of Ephesians 5 after marriage?
How do you know he will be a leader?
How do you know he will provide for your family?
How do you know he will put you above all else?
One way is to look for evidence of these behaviors in a dating relationship. No, he is not obligated to do any of the above actions while dating, and there should be boundaries in how much of the above he does so that both of you can guard your hearts. (For instance, it is not healthy for him to pay your bills and be involved in making big decisions or put you before his family.)
But he can show these qualities in the little things – like paying for dates.
This makes you feel special and a priority to him. It shows that he is willing to invest in you by providing for you in some way. And it puts him in a leadership role.
Now does that mean that he should pay for every single date especially after an extended time of dating and courtship?
Probably not. You can also show him evidence of the wife you will be in marriage, as well, by helping him, putting him first, and paying sometimes.
But overall, it is wise for the man to pay on dates.