Thirteen days of 2014 have already passed, and it has been so inspiring getting your emails telling me that you’re taking the One Year No Dating Challenge. I know it’s not easy, regardless of your current dating situation, and I know you still have questions about how this whole thing will actually turn out and if you can really sustain it for one whole year – especially if you meet Mr. Right!
I plan to write update posts throughout the months with concerns and questions you may have and to hopefully encourage you to continue your commitment – the first one being today.
What if I meet Mr. Right during the One Year No Dating Challenge?
Of course, this is how life would work out, wouldn’t it? I could try to give some super spiritual reasons why I think your circumstances might fall in such a way. Like God is checking to see if guys really are idols in your life or that Satan is playing his nasty tricks again. But honestly I have no idea why life wants to go the opposite of where you’re going sometimes.
First of all, there are no rules. My hope is that you are so aware of the Holy Spirit through prayer and Bible reading that you are confident in any decision you make concerning a dating relationship. So if you are in the middle of this challenge and a guy comes along and the Holy Spirit tells you it’s wise to abandon the challenge, then go for it.
With that said, I know how very deceptive our single girl hearts are. I know because my heart was the most deceptive of all when I was single. I could rationalize anything and even get really godly people to believe me. (Like the time I convinced my mentor from church that I wanted to move to Texas just for the experience of moving out-of-state. Yeah right. It was because of a guy. But she believed me.)
You know deep down if God is leading you to abandon this challenge or if you just want a date – whether the date is someone you’re truly interested in or you’re fearful you’ll miss “the one”.
When making decisions like this, my benchmark is peace. Is there peace in my decision or do I feel a lead brick in my gut? If you do not feel peace, then you know that either your motives are wrong or you’re deceiving yourself.
If you have made the commitment of this challenge, I want to encourage you to continue you unless you are beyond certain that God is leading you otherwise. Why? Because like I’ve said before, this is the one thing I wish I had done before I was married. You have such a perfect opportunity to truly spend a year soul-searching, getting healthy, and most importantly getting to know your Heavenly Father in such a profound way that will not only benefit you, but will also benefit your future marriage and even the generations that will come from you.
Whatever you do, do not let fear be the reason to quit. Fear is not from God. Fear is straight from the enemy. Trust me, he doesn’t want you to take this challenge because he doesn’t want you any closer to God, and he’ll do whatever it takes to detour you.
Sweet, single friends, I am praying for you! You can do this through God’s strength. Trust Him. Call on Him. He will answer you.
“Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.” Jeremiah 33:3
What other questions or concerns do you have about the One Year No Dating Challenge?