Last week I gave you 11 Ways Married Women Can Serve Single Women. Today it’s the single women’s turn. So here are 11 Ways Single Women Can Serve Married Women.
Honestly, when I was single I was not intentional about serving married women. I babysat some, but never for free, and I mentored a few of my friends’ daughters. But that’s about it.
However, I noticed a trend as I got older and remained single. Even then I verbalized it like this: “The longer I remain single, the more selfish I get.” I didn’t want to be selfish. I wasn’t setting out to be selfish. But by default I became more selfish. When you are the only person you have to take of every day, it happens. It takes intentional effort to not become selfish.
The only way to do this is by serving others. Serving others helps dispel many problems in our lives, and yet most of us don’t do enough of it. Let’s remember that Jesus was a servant.
Jesus spent all day teaching and healing people until He was exhausted. He traveled long distances to be with people. He got up early to pray and sometimes prayed all night. Then there was the ultimate. He washed His disciples’ disgusting, filthy, mud, dirt, and animal-pooped feet. Yes, they wore sandals back then. They lived around animals. Washing the disciples’ feet was not quite as glamorous as giving someone a pedicure.
Serving others is the closest we will get to the idenity of our Savior. It takes our minds off of ourselves and our own worries and problems and fears, and it allows us to make someone else more important.
I want to encourage you, single women, to serve others, and your married friends are a wonderful place to start.
Here are 11 Ways Single Women Can Serve Married Women:
1. Cook dinner for her family and take it to her.
From someone who sincerely struggles with cooking, this would be a God-send!
2. Babysit her children for free.
Free is nice. I’m just saying.
3. Babysit her children on a predetermined, regular basis.
Date nights and small groups at church. These are the two “regular” events that it’s nice to have a predetermined babysitter. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, consider setting standing “dates.”
4. Come over and help her with the kids so that she can get something done.
Packing for a trip, cleaning the bathrooms, having a yard sale, cooking dinner – all of these are really hard to do when you have little ones at your feet. What would normally take you an hour takes you four. An extra set of hands would be helpful.
5. Help prepare and serve at events and parties.
If she’s having a birthday party or dinner party, help her prepare for it. And then help her during the event, too.
6. Bring her coffee!
Enough said about that one!
7. Invite her over to your house.
When you have other people around you all the time, it is so nice to just sit in someone else’s, quiet, place and chill out.
8. Listen to her talk about her kids.
Yes, we’re called to be self-sacrificing. Sometimes that means listening to the ninth story about what little baby did that day.
9. Don’t make her feel bad when she complains.
The grass is always greener, isn’t it? You may be thinking, “Well, I wish I had that husband and kids!” but don’t say it. Life is hard. No matter where you are in it, it’s just hard.
10. Pray for her marriage!
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a hundred times. For me, marriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life! I don’t know if it’s this hard for everyone, but it’s hard for me, and I need prayer!
11. Speak God’s Truth in her life.
I have a single friend named Emily. And I tell you what – she is one of the wisest women I know. She speaks truth into my life in ways that no one else does. Single friends, your words matter. Speak Truth.
What would you add to this list of ways single women can serve married women?
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