Hey there, I’m Brenda!
I’m the wife of John, my heart transplant hero, and the mama of two girl miracles, EG and ME. But most importantly, I’m a follower of Jesus who in His mercy and grace patiently loved me into a life of full surrender to Him. Today my greatest passion is using my life story to move girls and young women into a true relationship with Jesus.
How It All Began . . .
Like many little girls, I grew up with the dream of getting married and being a mommy one day. However, as I went through my twenties and entered my thirties single, the fear of that not happening consumed me. Even though I was a believing and active Christian, I lived my single years with a lot of fear, resentment, and anger. I made poor choices in the men I dated, and I stayed in dating relationships longer than I should have. Because I was insecure and desperate to get what I wanted, my identity was wrapped up in my dream for myself instead of God’s plans for me.
I got married one month shy of my 31st birthday. I am not the oldest woman ever to marry, but my single years left scars that I still carry today. That is why I refer to myself as a “recovering single.”
I now realize that it didn’t have to be this way.
While I take full responsibility for the decisions I made, I look back over my life as a girl and young woman and see where I would have benefited from mentorship and discipleship from older women in my life.
Now with two little girls, my passion is to mentor and disciple my girls and other young women to live surrendered to Jesus and with purpose no matter of life’s circumstances.
Triple Braided Life is a blog with a journey.
I started blogging as a hobby in 2008 right after getting married. Then, in 2010, my husband, John, had a heart transplant. I processed through that season of chronic illness and hospital stays by writing about it on my blog. Blogging also became a way to keep our friends and family up-to-date on John’s health.
It was in John’s hospital room that I discerned God’s call to write with more of an intentional purpose. I remember where I was sitting, the laptop in my lap, when I knew that writing was going to become a permanent part of my life.
From there Triple Braided Life became a blog to minister to single women from my experience as a single woman. Since then it has grown to an even broader audience. After having my two daughters, I became focused on learning how to mentor and raise my daughters well so that they would have tools that I lacked as a young woman. Now I write to all women who are raising or mentoring girls and young women.
What This Website is All About
As I often say, I do not know much about raising daughters. But I know a whole lot about being a daughter. (And I know a whole lot about being a young single woman.)
Triple Braided Life is a website dedicated to raising and mentoring girls well. Our mission is to encourage and equip moms and mentors to invest in the lives of girls so that they grow into women with a proper identity, strong faith, and desire to serve others, hence to have a Triple Braided Life (you, Jesus, and others).
Here is a breakdown of what you will find on this site.
Because Jesus defines a girl’s identity, her relationship with Him is more important than any other relationship. As moms and mentors, our primary goal should be to disciple our girls well so that they grow to know and love Jesus and serve others to His glory. However, discipleship first begins with our own healthy relationship with Jesus. Here you will find articles to not only help you disciple girls well, but also to help you grow in your relationship with the Lord.
Raising girls is no joke. Especially in today’s culture. Having grown up in a time when very little was done to mentor and disciple girls well, my primary goal is to learn all I can about raising my two girls to love Jesus, know who they are in Christ, and serve others selflessly. You will find articles where I share with you what I’ve read and learned and what I experienced as a daughter that has fueled my passion for being intentional with raising my daughters. Girls are special. They have needs that are unlike the needs of boys. As their moms, we are called to be their first mentors. We are called to be their teachers. We are called to show them what it means to be a strong woman.
Having being single for many years, I have special love for single women. My heart goes out to them because I know the fear, sadness, and maybe even pain of wanting something so badly and there not being any way to make it a reality. I also know what it’s like to look into the future and not know what may or may not be. As I look back on that time, I see so much I could have done differently. There are decisions I made that quite possibility kept me from getting married sooner. And there are attitudes I held onto that prevented me from experiencing the life Jesus wanted to give me. Often I share my wisdom to my single readers.
Being an introvert, and having an INFJ personality type, community does not come easy for me. I love being around people and having fun, but after about an hour I’m exhausted! However, God made us for community. We need community to learn from one another and to help one another. Our community also needs us, followers of Jesus, to serve them and show them His love. I write about different aspects of community including conflict resolution, friendships, the Church, serving, mission trips, and social media.
I admit I love politics. I know it’s not cool to say you love politics, but I’m just keeping it real. I love politics. I don’t write much about politics, per se, however, I am very passionate about a few subjects that are known to be political. Basically, if it has to do with children, protecting life, abortion, or the oppression of women, I want to know more. Today’s culture has twisted women’s minds when it comes to who women are and what they are supposed to be. As I have had my daughters, I’ve become more passionate about these issues with the hope to teach them truth.
This is where I share about life outside of raising girls, mentoring, and pursuing a relationship with Jesus. Here you’ll find articles about marriage, my husband’s heart transplant story, what it’s like being southern, books I’m reading, and holidays and traditions at our house.
Things I Love . . .
Need I say more?
These precious angels take up the majority of my life, and I thank Jesus for them! But when I have some spare moments here are some other things that make life sweet.
Atlanta, where I’m from and what leaves me in a perpetual state of homesickness since I don’t live there anymore.
University of Georgia football, where I went to grad school and where my husband graduated. My fondest memories of our dating days are home football games.
My best friend, who I met in the third grade and who I still talk to almost every day. She’s the sister God blessed me with.
Coffee, yes, I love it.
Talking in coffee shops for hours with friends about real things. I have a serious aversion to small talk.
Books and podcasts. I love to read and listen. It’s a slight obsession.
And I’m a nerd for the Bible and theology. No, that’s not a stock answer to make myself sound good. What’s truthful is I know more than my heart shows.
The beach. I can’t leave out the beach.
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